DEMARRIAGE

IN A NUTSHELL & PICTURES, EVERYTHING EXPLAINED:

  • THE ATTORNEY MAINTENANCE
    THE ATTORNEY MAINTENANCE
    Could have gone to child support
  • THE FACE OFF
    THE FACE OFF
    Court (& attorneys) can easily fan deeply felt emotions into an unthinking war
  • THE WIN
    THE WIN
    Except you don't. Here's a tip; in Family Court you rarely crush the opponent
  • THE SEPARATE LIFE
    THE SEPARATE LIFE
    Even separated, there must be contact
  • THE COLLATERAL DAMAGE
    THE COLLATERAL DAMAGE
    Court takes forever, is uncertain, and embroils the children
  • THE SOLUTION
    THE SOLUTION
    MEDIATION. Everyone is better off (save the trial attorneys)
  • THE END. AND THE BEGINNING
    THE END. AND THE BEGINNING
    Imaginative thinking, joint effort, commitment to an agreement & a future

 

I’m truly sorry you’ve arrived at this page. Sometimes its better to part than to remain, but its a gut wrenching decision, all the same.. Most important is that you (and any children) make the transition and continue  living as seamlessly as possible. How you go about the divorce will dictate your entire future. 

 You have choices even here. you can take charge of your destiny, use mediation to your advantage, deal with your spouse, and create a better future for yourself and family. Which after all is the reason to divorce. Or you can tread the weary road lit up by some trial attorneys‘ sirens to more negativity, straight to the court circus, taking everyone including yourself down (only divorce attorneys win). 

You are sad, alone and at sea, even angry with the world or the partner, a little at yourself too. Consequently you are feeling competitive.  Well, that’s understandable, but   – as an attorney and a divorcee – i can tell you it will hurt your prospects. When the Court carousel stops, your head will be spinning, and you wont be any further along the road to the future. You’ll just have fewer possessions but more baggage, and a whole lot more heartache. No, you won’t be the exception.

Divorce is hard enough, an end of one existence, a prelude to a different way of life, to an uncertain yet lifetime future. Yet divorce itself has taken on a life of its own, a macabre endurance test which leaves few unscathed. The word itself seems ugly, unrelated to the process it purports to describe.  Break-up is incredibly hard, obviously, but more incredibly Court  is the straw – more like a haystack – that breaks the family’s back.

Its a rocky road to ‘demarriage’. People are not chess pieces as pawns, but humans with problems that require imaginative solutions and a hopeful future. Browse the website and please contact us  with questions, suggestions or experiences, and if relevant  for a free consultation.

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